Q: I just got engaged and we decided we want to get married soon. Like in the next 6 months soon. Am I crazy to be planning a wedding during COVID?
First of all congrats on your engagement! And second, no you’re not crazy.
Given the world we live in and the unpredictability of COVID, waiting to get married just isn’t appealing for many.
Because if you wait, how long will you have to wait?
No one really has the answer to that question (although we do have some recommendations). So, I get not wanting to wait.
So, no you’re not crazy.
But, you also need to go into planning with your eyes open.
Because getting married during COVID is no joke.
Because you have to keep everyone safe.
And in order to do that, plans will need to be put into place that think through all the possibilities, what you’ll need and how to communicate that to your guests.
There are a lot of moving parts to a wedding and when you add COVID to the mix, those moving parts multiply and get more complicated.
Which of course makes planning harder.
But, it can also add to your bottom line.
Because there are costs to having a smaller COVID wedding that come with the steps needed to keep people safe.
So, while you’re certainly not crazy, before you dive into planning a wedding during COVID, make sure your eyes are wide open. So that you know what you’re getting yourself into.
To help with that, you’ll want to think through these 3 questions.
3 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF BEFORE YOU START PLANNING A WEDDING DURING COVID
Question #1 – What are you willing to give up?
If you’re having a wedding during COVID you already know it’s not going to be like a “normal” wedding. It can’t be because you have to think about the safety of not only your guests in attendance, but their families and friends and the community.
So, you will be giving some things up in order to get married now.
In some cases what you’re giving up may not matter to you at all.
Maybe you always wanted a small wedding. Or you never cared for dancing so not having it doesn’t matter to you.
But there likely are some things you’ll be giving up that you do care about. Like hugging or sharing food or dancing with your father or having your grandmother in attendance.
And the question is, what are you willing to give up in order to get married now?
If you’re answer is nothing, then getting married soon is not a good idea.
But if you’re willing to be flexible in order to get married soon, then you’re on the right track.
Question #2 – What decisions are you making to make your wedding safe?
Now question #2 is related to question #1 because you’re giving things up in order to make your wedding safe.
But the difference is that this question is more proactive – What are you actively deciding to do to make your wedding safe?
Now you may have thought about this and already made some decisions like having a smaller guest list or having your wedding outdoors.
But what other decisions are you making to ensure safety?
Is your wedding going to be short (like 2-3 hours)? Are you offering guests the option of attending virtually? Are you only inviting people who don’t have to travel?
Do you plan on having dinner? Do you plan on getting ready alone or doing your own hair and makeup? Are you hiring professional vendors with clear and comprehensive COVID health and sanitation procedures?
And what happens if you or someone very close to you tests positive?
These decisions are just a tiny few of the many decisions you’ll need to make to ensure safety.
Start to think through the possibilities now and play the what if game.
Because your decisions and how you feel about those scenarios will not only prepare you, but will also indicate if getting married soon is a good idea (or not) for you.
Question #3 – What are you going to require of your guests?
Your guests are a big part of what makes your wedding special. Sharing this very important decision and moment with the people you love is special.
But your guests are also biggest part of what makes a wedding risky.
Because it’s the gathering part that makes a wedding risky.
It’s not you getting married that’s risky, it’s the celebration with others that is.
Because gatherings, especially with people we know and love, are by nature hard to control.
Because no matter how well intentioned everyone is, we all let our guard down when we’re with the people we love.
We gravitate towards each other. We talk more and laugh more. And we want to touch each other.
It’s just natural.
But once again, you need to keep people safe. So in order to do that you need your guests to do their part and be safe too.
So, what are you going to require of your guests? Or what are you willing to require of your guests?
Are you going to ask them to take a negative test before your wedding or show proof of vaccination? Are you going to do temperature checks or have them sign a waiver? Will you make them wear a mask and sit with their household?
Making your wedding safe is going to require your guests to actively participate and care about that too.
And you have to be willing to ask that of them and be able to communicate its importance.
Getting married soon is what many couples want. But make sure you know what you’re getting into before you start planning a wedding during COVID.
Ask yourself these 3 questions and it will help to prepare you for what is to come.
And there’s never been a better time than now to get access to an advisor to ask all the questions you have circling your mind. Become a Passport to Joy member today and you’ll be able to get guidance you need.