How to Stay Sane During the Wedding Planning Process

So, I’m going to start off by saying the thing no one says… the wedding planning process can drive you crazy.

Yes, it’s true. You really can go a little nuts. 

There is a lot to do in a limited time. And there are so many outside forces that can seem like they’re working against you.

Everything from your parents and family drama to your maid of honor and wedding party drama… Everything from figuring out how to work with your budget to planning a wedding while you’re working a full time job…

How do you do it? How do you stay sane during the wedding planning process?

It all starts with understanding your situation. 

Everyone is different. Your family is different. Your friends are different. Heck, even your fiancé is different. 

And everyone has different strengths and weaknesses. Everyone has a different personality.  

All of this makes your situation different from someone else’s. So, what worked for someone else isn’t necessarily going to work for you.

What you need to do is assess your situation and then plan accordingly.  

Now this all sounds vague right now, I know, but let me give you some examples…

Example #1 – C came from a family of very loud and opinionated people. Everyone in her family was opinionated. Her dad, her mom, her grandma, her sisters, her brothers, her cousins.


And everyone had something to say about every part of her wedding.

She knew this and it drove her crazy. It made it so hard for her to plan her wedding because she was always listening to everyone else.

Example #2 – When B and T got engaged, they decided that they didn’t want a long engagement. They really just wanted to be married.

So instead of waiting the customary year-ish timeframe, they decided to get married in 2 months.

Yup, 2 months. And they had done nothing.

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Example #3 – R and L are pretty low key people. And when they decided that they wanted to keep their wedding pretty simple, but beautiful, it made a lot of sense. They had some vague notions of what that meant but nothing concrete.

And they had some specific ideas that they wanted to incorporate, but weren’t sure how that was going to work. Or if it was even realistic.

And they had no idea how to do it.

As you can see every couple’s situation was different.

And their issues were different – family, time, capabilities.

They came to me looking for help, for different reasons.

Before you dive into planning your wedding and the wedding planning process you need to understand your particular struggles and what will be hard for you.

Maybe it’s one thing. Or maybe it’s many things.

What will make planning your wedding hard?  

Understand what you can do and what you can’t. What you know and what you don’t know. What you’re willing to do and what you aren’t.

And then plan accordingly and make the adjustments you need.

So, what does that look like?

Maybe that’s asking a creative friend for help with your design. Maybe it’s getting guidance from a planner to help streamline the process. Or maybe it’s utilizing a neutral 3rd party to help so you can tune out all the other noise.

What ever that adjustment is, make it! You don’t want to go crazy.

Don’t let wedding planning drive you up the wall! Assess your situation and your struggles and then plan accordingly.

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