You’re engaged, yay! You’ve had the most awesome week (or weeks) and feel giddy every time you look down at your hand.
You’ve called your mom, texted your friends and gotten the most heartfelt reaction from your grandpa.
You’re so excited to be married and are ready to start planning your wedding.
But…where do you start?
Do you buy a magazine? Check out some tools online? Borrow your friend’s wedding planning binder?
Like starting a new year, a new fitness program or a new personal project, you want to start off on the right foot. You want to do things right!
Because it will only help you in the long run.
And let’s be honest, because it feels good to start things off well! Like getting a strike in your first few frames, it motivates and excites you for the rest.
Which is exactly what you need to not only make sure planning your wedding is easy, but as happy as possible.
So, we’re going to do just that! Here are 5 steps to start your wedding planning on the right path.
5 steps to start planning your wedding on the right path
Step #1 – Understand and get your priorities in order
You can’t plan anything, look at anything, do anything or pick anything out without understanding your priorities first. Because how will you know what to look at? Or what to choose?
If you don’t know what matters, then you don’t know how best to spend your time, money or efforts.
So, take the time now to sit down and discuss what matters to you both. What’s important to you about the wedding?
You may be surprised by the differences and how strongly you feel about certain things.
You’re just starting to plan your wedding and NOW is the time to talk about it, disagree, or argue if necessary.
This is the time for you to figure it out together! Before you’ve spent money or make huge decisions.
After you understand your priorities and know where they fall in relation to each other, you’ll know what’s important. Which means that going forward you’ll know how to make the best decisions.
And when planning your wedding is all about decisions, getting your priorities in order will make a huge difference.
Step #2 – Get your email in order
There’s one area that will get the biggest workout during your wedding planning. Not your body, but your email.
You will be using your email, A LOT.
Probably much more than you use it normally now. You’ll get emails from vendors, your wedding party, and your family. You’ll get emails asking questions, confirming items, and sharing ideas.
So, getting your email in order now is going to save you so much time.
Start by cleaning it out or create a fresh new one.
Then create folders or labels so you can organize yourself and keep it all straight. Because once those emails start piling in, you don’t want to have to worry about how you’re going to deal with it.
Getting a handle on your email now will help you down the road. And bonus, this won’t take long.
Step #3 – Figure out who will help you
As capable as you are, you can’t plan your wedding by yourself. Well you can… but you may also go insane.
And that’s not how you want to start your marriage, is it?
So, you need some help. Even if that’s just you and your fiancé working on your wedding.
It’s no fun planning a wedding by yourself. Not just because it’s a lot of work, but because it’s literally not fun doing everything yourself.
So you need to figure out who will help you. And you don’t have to pick someone who will do everything with you (or you can), but the people who you can rely on along the way.
That could be your wedding party. It could be your sister or your mom. It could be your cousin or your best friend. Or all of the above!
Just make sure you have a support system in mind ahead of time, so that when you need an opinion or someone to help you shop or an empathetic ear to whine to, you have it.
Because everyone needs help and when it comes to planning your wedding that time will come for you too.
Step #4 – Make your timeline
It’s not a lie when we say that planning your wedding is like a 2nd full time job. There is a lot you’ll need to do.
And getting all of it done not only takes time, but surprise, planning!
Part of what will help you to get everything done is a timeline. Your list of what you need to accomplish spread out over your planning timeframe.
Now while you can certainly just use a free generic timeline online, what you really need is YOUR timeline.
Because your timing, priorities, location and situation are going to be different than another person’s.
Using a generic timeline isn’t actually going to keep you on track. And after a while you won’t even look at it. Which means it really isn’t helping you.
But, if you create your timeline customized to fit your wedding and your priorities, then you’ll use it. And it will actually help you because it makes sense for you.
So, make your version. And if you need help to make sure you’ve got all the pieces, we go through it all in the Passport to Joy program.
Step #5 – Follow a guide
Now that you’ve got all these pieces in place, how do you actually plan your wedding?
The key is to follow a guide, someone who knows what they’re doing.
If you had a tax question, you’d ask a tax accountant. If you’re not sure what’s going on with your tooth, you ask a dentist.
The same rule applies to planning your wedding. Follow the advice of a professional.
Because you’ve never done this before and trusting someone who does it all the time means the process will be so much easier and streamlined for you.
All of which means you can avoid all the guessing and really start planning your wedding on the right foot. And most importantly, keep it that way!
Because you’ve got a lot ahead of you and knowing exactly what you should be doing the entire time is going to make this whole process so much easier and happier.
So, what are you waiting for?! Get your Passport to Joy membership here. And you’ll have all the steps you need to plan your wedding from start to finish.
And guess what?! We’ll help you with all these 5 steps in the program as well!